ABOUT CHURCH LEADERSHIP

Are you gifted and talented to serve in the church? You are supposed to be given a chance only after getting yourself ready to subject yourself to the discipline and correction of God-appointed leaders. There is no democracy, autocracy or do as you wish in church. The church follows the Theocracy style of leadership - This is Govt. by God. Church ministers, leaders and members are only supposed to implement. Let it be known that theocracy's results should prove the best as compared to any other style of leadership - and it is. Where people are dissatisfied, it is because God was not obeyed a 100% either by those in positions of authority or those led.

lies and liars

Proverbs. 12:22 - The LORD detests lying lips. he delights in men who are truthful. See also Revelation 21:8; 21:27; 22:15. Let us see some forms of lies: 1. DISTORTION OF FACTS.
e.g 1. Gehazi 2 Kings. 5:20-27. 2. Ananias. Acts 5:1-11. You will find people lying about facts such as the level of their education, marital status, the time they leave their working place, if they have a child or not, residence, hospital bills and the next appointment, salaries, unpaid debts, secret financial support from people with some interest known to the person,etc 2. FAKING DESIRES AND INTERESTS. e.g 1. Saul to David. 1Sam. 18:17-28. 2.Delilah to Samson. Judges. 16:4-6;15-17.

RESULTS.
OF LYING:1. Attracts God's punishment and curse 2. Destroys relationships. 3. Destroys one's name. 4. May deny you opportunities. 5. Can destroy your work. 6. Will determine your final destiny - eternal separation from God.

OF NOT LYING: 1. Commands the blessing of God. 2. Builds relationships. 3. Builds trust and peace. 4. Can save life, property, a nation etc. 5. Will make your light more visible on earth.

Fw: [New post] Standing up to Emotional Terrorism in Churches

--- On Tue, 10/9/12, Restoring Kingdom Builders <comment-reply@wordpress.com> wrote: From: Restoring Kingdom Builders <comment-reply@wordpress.com> Subject: [New post] Standing up to Emotional Terrorism in Churches To: elijahmutua97@yahoo.com Date: Tuesday, October 9, 2012, 12:32 AM Jim Meyer posted: "A wise old pastor once warned me to avoid "the kiss of death." The kiss of death for a pastor isn't administered by a woman ... or a governing board ... or a government agency. No, the kiss of death occurs when a pastor resigns his position without" Respond to this post by replying above this line New post on Restoring Kingdom Builders Standing up to Emotional Terrorism in Churches by Jim Meyer A wise old pastor once warned me to avoid "the kiss of death." The kiss of death for a pastor isn't administered by a woman ... or a governing board ... or a government agency. No, the kiss of death occurs when a pastor resigns his position without anywhere else to go ... because when churches are looking for a pastor, they prefer to call one who is already serving in a church rather than one who is in secular work or unemployed. I nearly experienced the kiss of death in my second pastorate. The church I served as pastor was the result of a merger between two churches ... and I had led one of those churches. The church board and I went on a retreat in the mountains.  We evaluated the entire ministry, including ways to improve everything we did. This included the music ministry. The board agreed to allow a band of young men to play for our services on Sunday mornings and evenings. (The mother of the board chairman liked the band so much that when she died, she requested they play at her memorial service.) However, when we made this change, I warned the board in advance that some people weren't going to like it. And I was right. One middle-aged couple in particular became incensed about the music.  The wife refused to come to church.  Her husband eventually stayed home as well. One year later, this antagonist contacted my district minister to complain about me.  By this time, he had gathered together a small but vocal contingent of people who viewed me as the antichrist. One night, my district minister and I had a conversation in which he recommended that I resign to keep the peace in the church. However, the entire board had told me that if I resigned, they would all resign along with me ... leaving the church in the hands of the antagonists ... who didn't have a collective clue as to how to run a church. Fortunately, the board stood with me ... but the district leadership wilted. For years, this scenario has played itself out in thousands of churches: *The district leaders of a denomination hold a training time for pastors. *The pastors are encouraged to institute changes in their churches so they will grow numerically. *The changes always involve taking risks ... and such risk-taking always angers some attendees. *Those attendees who are angry about the changes don't speak directly with their pastor about their feelings. *Instead, they go around the pastor and form a faction inside the church designed to oust the pastor. *In the process, someone in their group calls the district minister and complains to him about the pastor, intimating that the pastor is so divisive and/or ineffective that he should be removed from office. *The district minister listens to the complainers, ends up taking their side, and then recommends that the pastor resign to keep peace in the church. That's exactly what happened to me 25 years ago. Here's the problem, however.  For any church to grow: *The pastor needs to assume leadership. *Leadership involves taking risks. *Risk-taking always provokes change. *Change always provokes anxiety and even anger. *And those reactions are always aimed at the leader ... in this case, the pastor. *If the pastor receives support from the church's governing board, he will survive and the church has the best chance for success. *The pastor also needs support from his "superior," whether that's a district minister or a bishop. *But if either the board or the district collapses on the pastor, he may be forced to resign. I've recently been reading an insightful and motivating book on denominational leadership at the district level. It's called Hit the Bullseye by former denominational executive Paul Borden. Borden says that district leaders need to become coaches for pastors, who need to become better leaders in their churches. And if this occurs, Borden writes about district leadership: "We are also willing to confront those congregations and congregational leaders (the emotional terrorists) who for years have chewed up pastors and spit them out.  We have confronted both pastors and congregations even though it has cost the region the loss of financial support." That last statement takes great courage to implement.  One of the reasons district leaders side with a church over against their pastor is to keep donations to the district flowing. Borden continues: "Finally, we are adamant about not letting the region be used to promote congregational triangulation, which allows laity to condemn pastors anonymously.  If any lay leaders call the region to complain about their pastor those leaders are told they must first confront their pastor before we will become involved in offering assistance, if that is required." Borden goes on to say that "congregational transformation will create tremendous conflict in dysfunctional, dying churches" and that "the worst thing that can happen in the midst of such conflict is mediation, since the conflict is more about the transfer of power and who will lead the congregation, than individuals or groups not being able to get along." Let me tell you one reason why so many churches aren't growing and so many pastors are ineffective. It's because pastors instinctively know that for a church to grow, they'll have to take risks ... and if they do, they may very well end up standing alone without any support ... because many Christian leaders will not stand up to emotional terrorism. Will you? Jim Meyer | October 8, 2012 at 5:32 pm | Tags: change in churches, church antagonism, denominational support of pastors, pastors and risk-taking | Categories: Change in the Church, Church Conflict, Conflict with Antagonists, Conflict with the Pastor, Pastoral Termination | URL: http://wp.me/p1dBN6-BK Comment    See all comments Unsubscribe or change your email settings at Manage Subscriptions. Trouble clicking? Copy and paste this URL into your browser: http://blog.restoringkingdombuilders.org/2012/10/08/standing-up-to-emotional-terrorism-in-churches/ Thanks for flying with WordPress.com