Sunday, 15 July 2012

Fw: [New post] Choosing Principles or Friends?



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Choosing Principles or Friends?

by Jim Meyer

Imagine that you have a friend who is married and has two kids.

She's been struggling with her marriage, and one day, she tells you that she and her husband have separated.

She proceeds to tell you - in great detail - why her husband is 100% to blame for their failed relationship and why she has done everything right ... and nothing wrong.

You want to support your friend ... to listen to her pain, and be a safe person, and gently offer her advice ... but you also know that she's responsible for at least some of the problems in her marriage.

Here's your dilemma:

Do you become so empathetic that you side with her completely?  ("You should never have married him, he's a selfish pig, and you deserve full custody of the children.")

Or do you share with her biblical principles of marriage?  ("Marriage is for life, you lack biblical grounds for divorce, and the right counselor could help you both rekindle your old flame.")

As a pastor, I actually relished most forms of counseling ... all except marriage counseling.  I discovered that:

*I rarely sensed I was getting the real story from either partner until the third or fifth or seventh session ... by which time one or both of them had already quit.   

*I couldn't watch their real-life interaction at home (like Jo, the British nanny, did with parent-child situations on TV).

*I sometimes suspected that one partner was mostly responsible for the mess ... until I spoke with the other partner. 

*I couldn't form an alliance with either one ... I had to be on the side of their marriage instead.

Now let's apply these ideas to conflicts at church.

*It's hard to get the real story about a conflict at times.  If you talk to the pastor, you'll get one story ... and if you talk to the pastor's detractors, you'll hear another story.

It's okay to remain friends with one or both parties during a conflict.  Just realize that if you only hear one side, you've chosen friends over principles ... and when you do that, you've lost all objectivity.

*It's unlikely you'll be able to watch any real life interaction between the pastor and his detractors.  Most conflicts happen behind closed doors during board meetings or staff meetings ... or after those meetings in parking lots or corners of the church campus. 

Most people - especially church leaders - are on their best behavior in public.

Because you can't witness any conflicts yourself, be careful about publicly taking sides just because one party is a better friend than the other.  You can't be 100% certain you know what's happening.

*Be careful about blaming everything on one party ... usually the one you like least. 

This is a trap.

I have been a Los Angeles Lakers fan for almost 50 years.  While I deplore their recent trend toward thuggery, I remain a loyal adherent of the team.

Sometimes I'll watch a game, and I'll see a player on the Lakers take an elbow or a punch from an opposing player ... and my first reaction is, "Throw that guy out, ref!"

Then the TV people show the replay, and I'll notice that my guy threw the first elbow, or pushed his opponent hard, or was guilty of a flagrant foul ... or flopped unnecessarily.

I love my team, but come on ... sometimes both parties are guilty ... although one may bear more responsibility than the other.

Wouldn't it be great to have instant replay in church settings?

*Instead of backing one party 100%, isn't it better to be on the side of truth and righteousness?

So let's say you're in a church, and a conflict breaks out between the pastor and a small group of detractors.

Resolve that:

*because you don't know the full story, and ...

*you can't witness their interactions (or lack thereof) ...

*you won't blame the conflict totally on one party, and ...

*you will lobby for the truth to emerge and for righteousness to prevail.

If someone tries to draft you to be on their side in a conflict, simply state:

"I love all the parties involved and wish them well.  But I really don't know the full truth about this conflict, so I'm not going to take sides at this time.  Instead, I will take the side of truth and righteousness, and I will suspend final judgment until I have all the facts."

We all want to be loyal companions, but sometimes ... as Jesus reminds us ... we need to risk appearing disloyal to our loved ones so we can be loyal to greater principles.

I once witnessed a major conflict involving a pastor where sides were quickly chosen up.  You were either for the pastor or against him ... there was no middle ground. 

I did my best to point people to biblical truth during the whole sad situation.  While I had feelings about what was happening, I tried to be an advocate for higher principles ... even though some of my friends wanted me to take their side.

Once we choose sides, we want to win ... and we want the other side to lose.

There are times when one side is clearly in the wrong and the other is clearly in the right ... but even then, we want to make decisions on the basis of principles, not personalities.

How do you feel about this issue?

 

 

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Saturday, 23 June 2012

ARE YOU BEING FOLLOWED?

Are You Being Followed?

By James Smith

1Th 1:6  “And ye became followers of us, and of the Lord, having received the word in much affliction, with joy of the Holy Ghost:”
A young upstart in the ministry once asked an elder more seasoned minister, "When will I know that I am leader in the Church?"  With that the seasoned minister responded simply, “When you are being followed.”
Leadership in God’s church is not position.  It is not having or being in an office.  Being elected by a group of people neither actually causes you to become their leader.  They may have elected or chosen you to do a job, but that does not mean that you are their leader.  Leadership only happens in the church when you are being followed. 
Jesus’ followers literally followed him through deserts, mountains, and stormy seas.  No obstacle was too great for the opportunity to be near to the master.  Here is where many church leaders find out if they’ve made the grade or not.  One statistic tells us that very often after a building program, many pastors too often leave a church to find another pastorate.  Why is that?  Could it be that the parishioners didn’t like the color of the paint the pastor chose?  Did they not like the way he conducted the business of the project?  Was too much money spent?  Too little accomplished?  Wrong decisions?  Bad decisions?  A leader will know if he is truly a leader if he followed even after a storm.
When Jesus’ followers were in the ship that was being tossed by the waves, they cried out to their leader and he healed the situation they were in.  Here is where an elected person becomes a leader of people.  Knowing what to do in the storm will validate your leadership.  Knowing how to act in a crisis elevates you above your fellow.  Not everybody is capable of making tough decisions.   Only a leader worth following knows when and how to step to the forefront and take charge of a chaotic situation.
Great leaders are not born.  They are not elected.  They are developed.  What made Jesus the greatest leader of people of all time was His desire to sacrifice Himself for the sake of those who followed Him.  People will follow those who are self sacrificing.  They will lean towards those who put the good of the people first and foremost. 
People will never follow a leader who is self-serving for long.  Self-serving leaders are thieves of the people.  They take without giving.  They demand when they themselves offer nothing. 
Are you being followed?  When you look behind you, do you see people who’s lives are being shaped by your example?  Do you see other leaders coming up under your ministry?  Are there people who would follow you anywhere you went?  Would they follow you through a stormy sea or a hot desert experience?  If so, you are truly a leader.  If not, you may need to ask yourself some important questions.
The answer to these questions lay within yourself.  A leader who is not truly being followed can never blame others for not following him.  Nor can he demand them to follow.  People will only follow those they trust.  They will only follow those they respect.  They will not go very far with someone who hurts them or treats them small.  However, they will go to any length and give any amount to someone who has earned their trust, respect and love.
For some leaders this kind of followership happens very quickly.  For others, it takes a lifetime.  The adversities that a congregation goes through and the response of it’s leaders may well be the determining factor here.
Would you follow you?  Think about this for a moment.  What kind of leadership have you followed in the past?  What did you require from those you followed after?  Do you have those same traits?   Do you have a similar character?  Are you being followed?

Thursday, 21 June 2012

Fw: [New post] Fingering Church Powerbrokers



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Fingering Church Powerbrokers

by Jim Meyer

My pastor was under attack.

He couldn't sleep.  He couldn't study.  His personality turned inward.

He was a wreck.

Why?

Years ago, in my third church staff position, a small group of vocal members began to criticize the church's pastor ... who was also my supervisor.

Their main claim?  That he didn't preach often enough, an indication that he was lazy.

35 years ago, many Protestant churches had:

*Sunday School

*Sunday morning worship

*Sunday evening service (with youth group meetings before or after)

*Wednesday night prayer meeting

That's a lot of teaching time to fill!

My pastor's main gift was shepherding - not teaching - so he utilized a team of teachers on Sunday nights and Wednesday nights.  I was happy with the arrangement because I enjoyed hearing others speak ... and because I got to speak once a month as well.

I can't recall what set off the grumbling, but many of us started feeling heightened anxiety around the church campus.  One night, someone caught me in the parking lot and told me that 10% of the church was going to leave if the pastor didn't start preaching on Sunday nights.

Now what would you do with that information?

Some Christians would keep it to themselves.

Some would tell family and friends from the church.

Some would throw in their lot with the 10%.

Honestly, I wasn't sure what to do.

I had a friend in the church - a man who went on to become an evangelist - and he and I discussed the situation.  We decided to visit the most influential man in the church ... a layman known for his teaching, integrity, and straight talk.

My friend and I sat in his living room and said something like this, "There are people in this church who are attacking the pastor.  They are threatening to leave if he doesn't start preaching on Sunday nights.  The pastor is devastated by this news and seems paralyzed to do anything about the situation.  What can we do to help him?"

Looking back, I don't know whether or not this man was supportive of the pastor, but we had to take the risk.

He told us, "Gentlemen, when Paul talked about troublemakers in the church, he named names.  Who are these people?"

Wait a minute.  If we mention the names, isn't that gossip?  Aren't we tattling?  Couldn't we get in trouble if we said too much about what was happening?

And some of those people were our friends.  How could we single out friends like that?

But this man was right.  Paul did name names - along with John, the apostle of love:

Some have rejected these and so have shipwrecked their faith.  Among them are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan to be taught not to blaspheme.  1 Timothy 1:19-20

Their teaching will spread like gangrene.  Among them are Hymenaeus and Philetus, who have wandered away from the truth.  They say that the resurrection has already taken place, and they destroy the faith of some.  2 Timothy 2:17-18

Alexander the metalworker did me a great deal of harm.  The Lord will repay him for what he has done.  You too should be on your guard against him, because he strongly opposed our message.  2 Timothy 4:14-15

I wrote to the church, but Diotrephes, who loves to be first, will have nothing to do with us.  So if I come, I will call attention to what he is doing, gossiping maliciously about us.  Not satisfied with that, he refuses to welcome the brothers.  He also stops those who want to do so and puts them out of the church.  3 John 9-10

With biblical precedent upholding us, my friend and I divulged the names of the troublemakers we knew about - especially the ringleaders.

I learned an important lesson that day.  Sometimes church powerbrokers are successful in making threats and demands because nobody has the courage to identify them by name.

Think about this:

Last night, my wife and I watched a recently-produced film on Solomon's life.  The film opens with King David near death - but he hadn't yet chosen his successor.

So one of David's sons engaged in a pre-emptive attempt to be anointed as king -  in league with David's top general.

Their names?  Adonijah and Joab.

Not "one of David's sons" - but Adonijah.

Not "a high-ranking military officer" - but Joab.

They were both executed for committing treason against David's choice for king ... Solomon.

One of Jesus' 12 disciples betrayed him.

His name?  Judas from Kerioth.

Not just "one of the Twelve" - but Judas.

Before anyone could finger him, Judas took his own life.

Paul wrote in Romans 16:17:

I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned.  Keep away from them.

If you're in a church, and you hear that someone is plotting against your pastor ... do something about it.

Warn the pastor.  If you sense the board is supportive, talk to the board member you know and trust best.

Believe me, the pastor and/or board may have no idea of any division inside the ranks.  Your information may give them time to head off an attack before it ever takes place ... or give them a key piece of information they lacked.

If you know that an individual or a group is planning on "going after" your pastor, speak to someone in authority - even if the plotters are your friends.

Because if you don't, your church will eventually experience months of tension, division, and ugliness.  Friends will separate, donations will plunge, and people will leave.

If you know something, tell somebody!

Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sinsJames 4:17

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Saturday, 9 June 2012

Fw: [New post] Blaming Others for My Mistakes, Part 2


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Blaming Others for My Mistakes, Part 2

by Jim Meyer
I once got thrown out of Dodger Stadium.
It's true.
When I was in eighth grade, my uncle took his son, my brother and me to a Dodgers-Mets game at Chavez Ravine.  It was the last Friday game of the season, Game 160.
We sat where we always sat at Dodger Stadium: in the general admission deck at the very top of the stadium.  Back then, I think it cost 75 cents for a kid to sit there.
My brother, cousin and I all sat in the front row of the top deck.  My uncle sat a few rows back.
The Dodgers weren't very good that year, and the game was boring.  My brother and cousin would do anything on a dare, so I dared them to do something.
Expectorate over the railing and try and hit a certain bald guy in the head.
The two of them tried to hit him.  Oh, how they tried.  And when the guy below turned around and looked up at them, they pulled back and hid their faces.
But when he angrily stormed up the aisle - presumably in search of an usher or a policeman - the three of us hid in the men's bathroom ... where we were quickly caught ... and discharged from the stadium.
My uncle was not happy.
"Honestly, I didn't do it.  I didn't do anythingThey did it all."
But I suggested the idea ... even if no fluids ever left my mouth.
I certainly bore at least some responsibility for our having to leave the ballpark that night ... and I never tried a stunt like that again.
Does my little story have a familiar ring?  Remember what happened in the Garden after the first couple ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil?
Adam told God, "The woman you put here with me - she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it."
Eve told the Lord, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate."
Wanting to maintain the illusion of perfection ... before both God and each other ... the parents of humanity did not claim any responsibility for their sinfulness.  They chose to say instead, "She's the one to blame!" and "The devil made me do it."
The two stories above are just a microcosm of what's happening today in our culture.
A woman hates everyone ... and blames her parents for her isolation even though they've been dead for years.
A man gets divorced ... and blames his wife for her controlling ways.
A boss gets reprimanded ... and blames three of his subordinates for all his troubles.
A church member is corrected for gossipping ... and blames her misbehavior on her husband.
A president is overwhelmingly elected ... and still blames many of his problems on the previous administration.
Maybe the woman's parents were abusive ... and the man's wife was controlling ... and the boss' employees were problems ... and the pastor did overreact a bit ... and the previous president did leave things in a mess.
But does this mean that the accusers bear no responsibility for their failures?
Thirty years ago - can it be? - in his classic work The Road Less Traveled, Scott Peck wrote a chapter called "Neuroses and Character Disorders."  Peck writes:
"Most people who come to see a psychiatrist are suffering from what is called either a neurosis or a character disorder.  Put most simply, these two conditions are disorders of responsibility, and as such they are opposite styles of relating to the world and its problems.  The neurotic assumes too much responsibility; the person with a character disorder not enough.  When neurotics are in conflict with the world they automatically assume that they are at fault.  When those with character disorders are in conflict with the world they automatically assume that the world is at fault."
The statistics indicate that an increasing number of people are developing character disorders.  They fail to take responsibility for their actions, blaming others for their misbehavior.
When I was a pastor, I suspected that some of the people I had difficulties with had character disorders.  The tipoff was that they would never admit that they made a mistake or did anything wrong.  Even when they were caught redhanded telling a lie, they didn't say what I heard them say.
In other words, it was all my fault.
It's one thing to deal with someone with a character disorder occasionally at church.  It's another thing to have a person with this condition as your parent, your boss, or your spouse.
Peck concludes his brilliant chapter this way:
"When character-disordered individuals blame someone else - a spouse, a child, a friend, a parent, an employer - or something else - bad influences, the schools, the government, racism, sexism, society, the 'system' - for their problems, these problems persist.  Nothing has been accomplished.  By casting away their responsibility they may feel comfortable themselves, but they have ceased to solve the problems of living, have ceased to grow spiritually, and have become dead weight for society."
If you recognize such a person in your life, how can you relate to them?
First, realize you cannot get close to them.  We can only become close with people who display authenticity.  If you admit a weakness in your life to this person, don't expect them to reciprocate.  They will disappoint you because they cannot be vulnerable.
Second, avoid working with them if at all possible.  When things go poorly, guess what?  They'll blame you as a way of diverting the spotlight away from themselves.
Third, understand that you cannot work for them.  Some supervisors are sociopathic.  (There's a lot of literature online about this problem.)  They charm their superiors while demeaning those who work underneath them ... and divert any and all responsibility for failure to those they supervise.  When they make a mistake, they find someone else to blame.  It's a sickness, and it can't be resolved through prayer, office politics, or going to HR.  You can either quit, seek a transfer, or visit a counselor.
Finally, realize that people with character disorders will not change.  Why not?  Because somewhere along the line, they stopped taking responsibility for their choices.  Neurotics can change because they take responsibility - albeit too much - for their lives.  But people with character disorders are frozen in immaturity.  They may have the intellect of someone 42, but they'll forever have the emotional intelligence of someone 13.
My guess is that you have a co-worker, a neighbor, an acquaintance, a supervisor, or a family member in this category.  Pray for them ... and protect yourself and your family from them.
Imagine that you and the team you're leading at church fail to meet a project deadline.
A healthy person does not say, "I'm 100% innocent ... and my team is 100% to blame."
A healthy person does not say, "I'm 100% to blame ... and no one else bears any responsibility but me."
The healthy person says, "I bear some responsibility for that mess-up.  Others do as well.  But I'm going to admit my part first ... whether or not others admit theirs.  And I'm going to learn from this experience and not repeat my mistakes."
Our Savior said it perfectly in Matthew 7:3-5:
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?  How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?  You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."
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Thursday, 26 April 2012

A thought about Worship.

Christians are to meet together for worship. 1Cor. 14:26; Heb. 10:24. Worship should cost us something. 2Sam. 24:22-24; Mal. 1:6-11; Gen. 4:1-7. It requires our time, preparation, giving etc. It includes: Praise to God, songs, reading of scriptures, preaching of the Word, Instruction and encouragement for believers etc. Worship with us: www.THEWORDOFGODISTHEWILLOFGOD.BLOGSPOT.COM

Saturday, 24 March 2012

LOOKING FOR AN ANSWER by BILLY GRAHAM

I sense that the Lord is calling me to enter the ministry and preach the Gospel. How do I prepare for this?

Anyone who senses the leading of the Lord to enter the Christian ministry or any field of Christian service should seek confirmation of that guidance through meditation upon God's Word and prayer.

The desire to enter full-time Gospel ministry should be a God-given urge and passion to seek out the lost, win them for Christ, and nurture them within the church. Paul expressed it this way, "Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel" (1 Corinthians 9:16).

Preparation should begin immediately through a personal habit of daily devotions, Bible study, and prayer. Loyalty in church attendance and active participation in Christian service are essential. Counsel and prayer with pastors and church leaders are also vital. Perhaps your pastor could suggest a program of reading and study in those areas he would consider most helpful. Trust the Lord to lead you in further training at a Bible college or seminary of His choice.

Your pastor or church leaders should be able to give you specific information on the process of obtaining credentials for ministry within your particular church or denomination. You might also contact officials at a Bible college or seminary that you are interested in.

As you explore God's plan for your ministry, remember the wonderful promise of Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."

Tuesday, 20 March 2012

STANDING FIRM - TAKEN FROM BILLY GRAHAM'S DAILY DEVOTION

Standing Firm

March 20, 2012
So use every piece of God’s armor to resist the enemy whenever he attacks, and when it is all over, you will still be standing up.
–Ephesians 6:13 (TLB)
Daniel and his companions were tempted to forsake their godly heritage, but they refused. They even faced a fiery furnace rather than compromise. God honored their faith and mightily used them. Moses was surrounded by the luxury and godlessness of the Egyptian court, but cast in his lot with his own people. Lot lived in Sodom and saw the obscenities of that doomed city. God saved him out of it because he trusted in Him. Every one of our Lord’s apostles sealed their faith with their lives. Since then, history has been replete with the lives of men who have put God and His way of life above all else.
Prayer for the day
Help me to stand by faith in You, when I am tempted, almighty God.

Sunday, 18 March 2012

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE.

1. Give more appreciation
2.Show love and kindness even when you are not receiving it from your partner.
 3.Do kind actions.
4.Don't be a person who always sees mistakes and complains. Try to overlook small mistakes, to concentrate more on the positive and make more positive comments on evrything good you notice
5. Forgive
6.Obey God at a personal level, pray, study the Bible and walk in holiness. This will affect your family positively.
7. Be close to and have as friends those people that will encourage you to improve your family and to improve it in the fear of the Lord.

PRAYER

For many christians, prayer is not as important as it should be. Many Christians only pray before meals, before bed (when they are children), or in emergency situations. The concept of pray without ceasing” (1 Thess. 5:17 -  is not a part of the lives of most Christians. How did the average Christian lifestyle drift so far from what the Bible says to do? The short answer is that most Christians are taught that everything that happens is God’s will, or   that even  has to ask God’s permission before he can act.
We all hate meaningless work, and that includes meaningless prayer. Good, solid, powerful, focused prayer takes a lot of work, a lot of time and mental energy. No one wants to make that effort if his or her prayer does not really make a difference. Unfortunately, that is what the teaching that “God is in control” does; it teaches that our prayers really do not make much, if any difference.
If everything that happens is God’s will, then God’s will gets done whether or not anyone prays. If prayer does not change anything, then what purpose does it serve? We have been told it demonstrates a person’s humility and obedience to God’s command to pray. Also, it has been used as a punishment for sinning (such as in the Roman Catholic Church when prayers are assigned as a penance for sin). Also, it has been said to be therapeutic because confession and prayer are “good for the soul.” It has also been taught that we pray to help align our own thinking with what God is doing, and to humbly accept the will of God.
It was Augustine of Hippo (354 - 430 A.D.) who discussed and defended the doctrine of “predestination” with such vigor it became an intrinsic part of Church doctrine. The doctrine of predestination played a large part in devaluing the importance of prayer in the everyday life of Christians. It has even been considered heresy that prayer could be effective for salvation. This is why even today there are no “altar calls” for salvation in the Roman Catholic Church, the Presbyterian Church, or other denominations that believe a person cannot choose to be saved because God made that choice for him ages ago. 
Augustine did teach that prayer was valuable and acknowledged that it was a person asking God for His favor. However, his words do not create much motivation to pray. To Augustine, and to the millions of people who follow his teachings, prayer was just asking for things that God already knew He was going to do. According to that theology, prayer does not change anything in heaven or on earth.
The doctrine that “everything that happens is God’s will” is held by many thousands of sincere, God-loving Christians. It has been around for more than 1500 years as a foundational doctrine of many Christian denominations, but it produces bad fruit. For example, the exemplary Christian, Watchman Nee, writes: “Prayer does not alter that which God has determined. It never changes anything; it merely achieves what He has already foreordained.” Not surprisingly, Nee, who acknowledges that prayer does seem to change things, in timing if not in essence, also wrote: “God’s people must pray before God Himself will rise up and work.” 
Nee’s two statements are contradictory. If people must pray to get God to work, then prayer does change things. On the other hand, if prayer changes nothing, then God’s going to work when His people pray is just coincidence. Watchman Nee is a wonderful and influential Christian. Imagine how much more helpful his teaching about prayer could be, if instead of being forced by his theology to say that prayer never changes anything, he could aggressively proclaim that prayer changes things dramatically, because it does!
The Bible says that prayer makes a difference; it changes things. Scripture never teaches that prayer is just a ritual, or just affects the one who does the praying. It is true that there is no verse that says, “Prayer changes things.” Nevertheless, this is the clear teaching of Scripture. We are supposed to learn from the examples in the Bible as well as its statements of fact. The many examples of people who prayed and received answers clearly teaches us that prayer makes a huge difference in what happens on earth. Furthermore, Jesus said,: ask and it will be given to you…” (Matt. 7:7a), and “If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer” (Matt. 21:22). If we have to ask for something before it can be done, then we play a significant role in getting God’s work done on earth.
God is not in control of what happens on Earth
We assert that God is not “in control” of what happens on planet Earth. Many things that occur are not His will. He wants all people to be saved, but most will not. He wants people to live godly lives, but most will not. God does not want the crime, corruption, and disasters that occur around us to happen, yet they do. Why? Because God is not “in control.” Jesus knew that God’s will often did not happen here on earth, so in the Lord's prayer, he prayed to his Father and said, “…your will be done on earth as it is in heaven” (Matt. 6:10b). That would be an absurd request if Jesus knew God’s will was in fact always being done on earth.
God is not “in control” of everything that happens on earth now, but that does not mean that He is not involved, or will not take control in the future. Jesus Christ will come down from heaven with the armies of heaven, fight the Battle of Armageddon, and conquer the earth (Rev. 19:11-21). When Jesus Christ rules the earth in the eternal Kingdom, the will of God will be done on earth, and the things that make life so difficult now will not occur. If God was in control of things on earth both now and in the future, then why would we expect our next life would be any better than this one?
Understanding the spiritual situation that exists today helps us to understand the value of prayer and why God says over and over again that we should pray. There is a state of war that exists in the universe today, with God, Jesus Christ, good angels and Christians on one side, and the Devil, demons, and evil people on the other.  The evil that occurs on the face of the earth today is not just “good” that somehow looks like evil. Some theologians try to convince us that when someone is murdered, raped, or killed, it is the will of God and therefore, somehow ultimately good, no matter how “evil” it seems to us. Yet, Jesus taught us that a kingdom divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:24). If God is the cause of sickness and death, then when Jesus healed the sick, cast out demons, and raised the dead, he was undoing God’s work, and God’s kingdom would fall apart.


A World at War
God originally created the world under His control. Then, in an act of amazing love and trust, God gave the rulership of the earth to mankind (Gen. 1:28). For a short time Adam and Eve ruled the earth according to God’s will, and it was a blessed place. When the Devil deceived Eve (1 Tim. 2:14), and Adam and Eve sinned, somehow (the Bible does not make clear exactly how) the rulership of the world was transferred to the Devil. That is why the Devil is called, “…the god of this world…” (2 Cor. 4:4 - KJV), “…the prince [archon = ruler] of this world…” (John 12:31), and “…the ruler of the kingdom of the air…” (Eph. 2:2). The Devil rules the world, so he was able to offer it to Jesus (Luke 4:5-7). It is also why 1 John 5:19 says the Devil controls the world: “We know that we are children of God, and that the whole world is under the control of the evil one.”  The world has taken on the characteristics of the Devil, becoming a very dark and difficult place to be.
The earth is now a war zone between the forces of good and evil, and each side wins some battles. Every time a person gets healed or saved, it is a victory for God. Every time a person gets harmed or killed, or what is worse, dies unsaved, it is a victory for the Devil. God is trying to help and bless people who live on the earth. However, He is righteous and just, and will not simply step in and take control of what He had entrusted to others. Our prayers open a door for God to work in our lives.
The Bible is full of the imagery of war. God Himself is called “the Lord of hosts” many times, and the word “hosts” means “armies.”  But if everything that happens is God’s will, why does God need an army? Who is He fighting? The simple truth is that God needs an army because the world is at war. Theologically, the book of Job has been used to trump the huge number of verses that show God fighting the Devil. Theologians use the first two chapters of Job to teach that, although the Devil is the agent doing the evil, he must have God’s permission to act. However, if that is correct, then all God would have to do to stop evil would be to say, “No!” to the Devil. Furthermore, the “God controls the Devil” theology does not answer all the clear verses about God at war.  For example, Acts 10:38 (ESV) says Jesus healed those who were “oppressed by the devil.” But if God had to give permission for people to be oppressed, it would have been easier for God to stop granting permission to the Devil, than for Jesus and his disciples to expend so much effort to get people healed.
Scripture says, “The Lord is a man of war…” (Exod. 15:3 - ESV) because there is a war, a real, genuine, “win some and lose some” war, going on between God and the Devil. God does not win every battle. Many verses depict God at war for His people. Psalm 18 is a Psalm that has comforted many people through the years. It tells of a person who was in distress and called out to God for help. God “heard my voice” (v. 6) and responded. First, He got angry (v. 7); so very angry that “Smoke rose from his nostrils…” (v. 8). Then God “…parted the heavens and came down…” (v. 9), and “…shot his arrows and scattered the enemies…” (v. 14) and “…rescued me from my powerful enemy…” (v. 17).
Praise God that we have a God who will fight for us, but if what is happening on earth is God’s will, Psalm 18, and many others like it, make no sense. If everything on earth was God’s will, the poor man in Psalm 18 would cry out to God about his suffering, and we can imagine God calling back and saying, “I know what is going on. Quit complaining. What you are going through is my will and for your own good.” Psalm 18 only makes sense if what was happening on earth was not God’s will, if the “enemies” were real, and if God was able to intervene when the person prayed to Him for help.
Psalm 18 gives us a glimpse of the importance of prayer. The world is controlled by the Devil, but God is able to act when we ask Him. The whole process of deliverance in Psalm 18 started when the person called out to God for help. The word “pray” means, “ask,” and if we want God’s consistent help in our lives we have to ask Him for it. We ask (pray), for His help.
The well-known Christian, Brother Andrew, author of the best-selling book, God’s Smuggler, saw prayer change things so dramatically that he wrote the book, And God Changed His Mind.  Brother Andrew’s book is a step forward from the idea that God’s will is eternally fixed and always done and that, therefore prayer does not really change anything. He asserts that, in the end, God’s will is always done, but he teaches that our prayers can get God to change His mind:
“…God’s plans for us are not chiseled in concrete. Only His character and nature are unchanging; His decisions are not!…when we see things happening in the world that appear to be ‘acts of God,’ and we disagree with what God seems to be doing (or allowing), we can ask Him to change His mind.”
Thank God for Brother Andrew’s book, but it leaves us with some very important questions: “Why should we have to ask God to change His mind? Why would He do harm in the first place?” If someone has cancer, and we pray for the person’s healing and God “changes His mind,” and heals the person, we are left wondering why a good and righteous God would give the person cancer in the first place.
The only satisfying and Scriptural answer to why there is evil, and why prayer actually works and is vital to Christian life, is that the world is at war. Our prayers give God permission to work in a world that is now controlled by the Devil. How can we give God permission to act on earth? When we become saved, we legally become God’s property, paid for by the death of Christ (1 Cor. 6:19 and 20, 7:23). God can act on behalf of His property, and when we pray, we sanction His intervention. 
We may never understand why some prayers seem to work and others do not. However, the answer is not that God does not care about us, or that somehow He is doing what seems evil to us but is actually good. God only gives us a tiny glimpse of the spiritual realm and the spiritual battle, but if we take what we see at face value, we see that often prayer is speaking into existence the legal permission for God to act in our lives.
The Importance of Free Will
Since the time of Augustine of Hippo, the Christian Church has for the most part rejected the premise that mankind has freedom of will. The Roman Catholic Church followed Augustine. Later, in the Protestant Reformation, John Calvin and many others, continued with the same basic theology. A summation of the major argument against free will is: If a person can make his own choice whether or not to be saved, then he is saved by his own efforts. Since Scripture says that people are saved by grace, then they cannot be saved by their own efforts, so God must be the One who chooses who gets saved and who does not.
There are many reasons to reject the above argument and assert that mankind does indeed have freedom of will, and there are ample defenses of free will in books and on the Internet. Two simple reasons to reject Augustine and predestination are that, first, salvation by grace does not mean that a person cannot have any part in his salvation, it just means that the salvation being offered and accomplished is by “grace,” i.e., we did not deserve it. Second, if we do not have free will, then hundreds of Scriptures have no practical meaning. If we cannot really do what God asks us to do unless we first have His help, the verses that tell us to choose life, to live godly lives, to be holy, or to be wise, become pointless, and even disingenuous.
To understand the necessity and value of prayer, it is vital that we understand that we truly, genuinely, have free will. God respects the choices that we make for ourselves, beginning with the choice to be, or not be, saved, and then the choice to ask for, or ignore, His help. We have a right to decide to be unsaved. It may be a stupid decision, but we have the right to make it. Similarly, we have the right to live without God’s help. That may be stupid too, but we have the right to try to fight the Devil on our own and get along in the world without God’s help. As we have seen, the world we live in is controlled by the Devil, and he acquired rulership of it from Adam, who got it from God, so now God cannot just interrupt the Devil’s rulership to help us, even if we need it.
Sometimes it seems like God breaks into our lives uninvited, but there are always reasons for that, even if we do not know what they are (perhaps someone else was praying for us).
It is amazing how many people complain to God about their lives but never diligently pray for God’s help. Those people are like children who complain to their friends that their parents never get them what they want, but have never asked the parents for anything. The book of James is clear: “You want something but don’t get it…You do not have, because you do not ask God” (James 4:2). We need to be asking God for help all the time, over and over again, all day long. We need to pray like Paul says, “…on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests…” (Eph. 6:18). We need to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thess. 5:17 - ESV).
In spite of the Bible’s many exhortations that we need to pray over and over throughout the day, someone may say, “but the Bible says, ‘God knows what we need before we ask Him,’ so why do we have to ask?” (Matt. 6:8). God does know what we need, but He still has to respect our free will decision to include or exclude Him. As we said earlier, prayer is speaking into existence legal permission for God to act on earth. God is often like a frustrated father whose teenager is saying, “I want to do this all by myself,” but struggling hard to write a paper for school. The father could help a lot, but if the teenager refuses, his options are limited. Let’s not be like the teenager. God knows what we need, and tells us to ask Him, so let’s ask. Prayer is asking, and each one of us has plenty to ask for in this life, for ourselves, our families, our faith, our country, and much more. Let’s pray, pray and pray
Speaking in Tongues
The loss in Christendom of the knowledge of the manifestation of the Holy Spirit, and especially speaking in tongues, has greatly affected the average Christian’s ability to “pray without ceasing.” Speaking in tongues is a manifestation of the gift of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 12:7-10) and not a product of the mind. Each Christian can speak in tongues out loud or silently whenever he wants, and because his mind is not fully occupied with it, is often able to do other things at the same time. Since speaking in tongues is either praying (1 Cor. 14:13-15), or praising God (Acts 2:11, 10:46; 1 Cor. 14:16), a person can pray by speaking in tongues (we say, “pray in tongues”) in many situations in which he would not be able to pray with his understanding. For example, if a person is involved in a conversation, he can speak in tongues when the other person is speaking and still hear and understand perfectly. On the other hand, it would be difficult or impossible for him to pray in English in his mind while the other person was speaking and still fully get what the other person was saying.
The Apostle Paul took full advantage of speaking in tongues, and disciplined himself so that he spoke in tongues much in his life. So much, in fact, that he wrote to the Church at Corinth, “…I speak in tongues more than all of you” (1 Cor. 14:18). The Greek text makes it clear that Paul did not say, “I speak in tongues more than any of you,” but rather that Paul spoke in tongues more than “all of you put together.” So when he wrote, “pray without ceasing” (1 Thess. 5:17 - ESV) he was not asking the people to do something that he was not doing. To speak in tongues more than the whole Church in Corinth, he must have spoken in tongues throughout the day. We should too.
Getting Prayer Back on Track
Many Christians have a weak or non-existent prayer life. Perhaps worse, when asked about it, they say something such as, “I know I should pray more, but….” Then they give reasons such as they do not know how, or they do not feel comfortable about it, or their prayers do not sound good. These can be real obstacles in a person's mind, and have to be dealt with. However, the real bottom line has to be that God commands us to pray and we need to figure out how to do it no matter how we feel. We need to start praying because, “…The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective” (James 5:16).
Although many people do not pray because they think their prayers “sound bad” or they do not know God does not look on the "how" to pray, the truth is prayer has no “right form.” Remember, praying is asking, and God looks on the heart. If our hearts are full of humility and faith, that is what matters. When a soldier under enemy fire says, “God, get me out of this,” that is a great prayer. The soldier is clear about what he wants, and he asks God for it, and God can then respond. In contrast, many long and flowery prayers do not ask for much and do not give God much to respond to. Keep in mind that the Greek words translated “pray” mean to “ask.” In contrast, “praise” is “to express approval, or a favorable judgment or opinion; commend.” To pray (ask) and to praise are different. Many of our prayers today are a combination of asking, praise, and thanks giving, but we must never lose sight of the fact that God tells us to ask Him for things, and we must continue to do that.
Ephesians 6:18 says we are to be “alert” when we pray, and Colossians 4:2 says that we are to be “watchful” when we pray. What does that mean? Remember, our prayers are speaking permission for God to act down on this earth, both in our lives and in the lives of others. Our needs, and the situations around us, are constantly changing. We must be alert to what is going on around us: to what people are doing, what the Devil is doing, and what God is doing. What is happening around us will determine much of what we pray for.
One of the weaknesses of memorized prayer is that it is “fixed” and cannot adapt to what is happening. Most cultures have memorized prayers. While they can sometimes help us focus on God, Jesus warned us not to think that God will pay attention to us just because we repeat a prayer over and over. Bible versions differ on how to translate Matthew 6:7, but the point of Christ’s warning was that repeating the same memorized prayer over and over, which was the habit of some pagans, did not have a benefit (“…do not heap up empty phrases…” (ESV, RSV, NRSV), “use not vain repetitions” (KJV), “…do not use meaningless repetition…” (NASB), “…do not keep on babbling like pagans…” (NIV)).
Repeating the same memorized prayer is not the same as praying day after day for the same thing. Jesus taught his disciples to pray again and again for something in order to help it come to pass (Luke 11:5-9, 18:1-7). We can watch in prayer by paying attention to the people and situations around us, lifting them up in prayer. Another way we can watch in prayer is by letting the morning newspaper or newscast become a “prayer guide” for us. We can pray for the people and the situations we learn about. Another thing that can be helpful is to keep a “prayer list” of people and things that need prayer.
Another way to be watchful in prayer is to pray for the things we pass as we drive down the road. Americans are in the habit of just listening to the radio or to a CD as we drive, or to just “space out” as the miles go by. However, driving is a wonderful time to pray. We can ask God if there are any specific needs that may exist in the places and people we pass, or just pray in general for God to bless and help those we pass. If Christians would pray for the things they pass on the road, lots of businesses, families, and farms that never get specifically prayed for would get blanketed in prayer, and there is no telling what God could do in response to those prayers.
Conclusion
The teaching that “God is in control” has, knowingly or unknowingly, adversely affected the prayer lives of millions of Christians. Many people are not motivated to pray because they have been told that God’s will comes to pass whether they pray or do not pray, while many others do not pray throughout the day simply because they have never seen that modeled for them by other Christians. Prayer changes things dramatically, and God needs us to ask in prayer, so He tells us again and again to pray. God is willing to do His part if we will do ours. Let’s not sit around complaining about how bad the world is; let’s do something about it! God wants us to do something, and a powerful thing we can do is to pray.NB: NOTES taken from www.TruthOrTradition.com with little changes.